The 12 Ties that Bind Long-Term Relationships

By Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D. in Fulfillment at Any Age

1. Thinking positively about your partner.
2. Thinking about your partner when apart.
3. Difficulty concentrating on other things when thinking about your partner.
4. Enjoying novel and challenging activities.
5. Spending time together.
6. Expressing affection.
7. Being turned on by your partner (touch of affection)
8. Engaging in sexual intercourse.
9. Feeling generally happy.
10. Wanting to know where your partner is at all times.
11. Obsessively thinking about your partner.
12. Having a strong passion for life.

Source: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201206/the-12-ties-bind-long-term-relationships

[转载] 女人心疼男人的十種方式

1、當你愛上一個男子，千萬別去想自己是不是應該矜持一點。 愛他就告訴他，有時候男人也很愛虛榮，你的表白會讓他的自信達到我是傻瓜點。

2、當你已經不愛他了，那麼也用最直接的方式告訴他。 別去考慮他會不會脆弱，男人的自尊遠比傷痛重要。

3、當你們已經相愛，那麼就要對他信任，有什麼想法就告訴他，不管他支持不支持。 任何一個男子都希望他的女人依靠他。

4、在他的朋友面前，要給他十足的地位。 面子對男子來說比什麼都重要，不要介意在人前當個小女人，要知道小女人都是男人寵出來的。

5、他在打遊戲的時候，不論你有多急的事情，也不要直接去關他的電腦。 最好是摟著他，在他耳邊輕輕的細語。 因為………男人對遊戲的執迷勝過你看一部精彩的肥皂劇。

6、男人每個月也有那幾天，跟女人差不多，心情無故低落。 這個時候不要問他怎麼了，只要陪在他身邊。做好你自己。

7、他和朋友出去喝酒、打牌，你不要問他為什麼不帶你一塊前往。 男人都願意做風箏，只要線還在你手裡，那麼就放他去飛吧。

8、男人都很懶很笨，儘管他愛你，但是不想費盡心思討好你，你所能做的就是在適當的時候給他個明示。 男人有時候需要女人給他強有力的當頭一棒。

9、男人不管他外表有多強大，但是骨子裡都還是一個孩子。 他在任性的時候不要對他大吼大叫，這對他不起做用。 最有效的辦法是陪他一起瘋。 等他平靜後輕輕的告訴他你很愛他。

10、男人都是不肯認錯的，在他知道錯的時候給他一個台階下。 他會知恩圖報的。

體諒一個男人，那就是把他當成你的愛人、情人、哥哥、朋友、父親、孩子。 愛他，不要給他負擔，給他自由，給自己自由。 做女人要知道什麼時候該進什麼時候該退。 什麼時候該擋在他的前面；什麼時候該躲在他身後。 把他當成你自己一樣去愛護，成全了他的幸福，他才會成全你的幸福。

09 June 2012 Wedding

This is my first time being part of the wedding although previously i have been involve with some other wedding but never a front role in a wedding.

Morning woke up around 5.30/6am to prepare and get to the groom's house so that we can set off together to Mantin to pick the bride.
Fast forward to when we set off and on the road, all the 7 cars (Bridal car + 4 Brother's car + Co-coordinator's car + Camera/ Videographer's car) had their hazard light on, convoying almost all the way down. I know it is dangerous because we are still moving, but because the bridal shop only remembered to deco the bridal car and afterwards forgot to pass the same red ribbons to be tied for the other cars.

Reach the house, of course is horn all the way to the house la :)

The first game was to guess which feet, hand picture belongs to the bride. After that was guessing which perfume does the bride use. Losing any of the 'round' was rewarded a cup of green drink with alot of fiber in it, initially we thought was some grass or donno what the bridemaids mix (after that they said is Blend bitter gourd including the seeds!!). Next game was passing the long long spaghetti without using hands, just passing from mouth to mouth, and in the end would be 1 inch long (meaning u would have to eat when passing lo). The losing team was rewarded with Wasabi on Cream cracker. But it was eventually shared out among all of the brother's.

Next was someone had to eat the banana that was dangling from the basketball net. FYI, the banana is who fruit with the skin still on. The person (who happens to be the blood brother of the groom) had to eat using his mouth only, meaning eat the whole banana with the skin!

Next was passing the ice from one leg to another. And the reward to that was eating Lemon (which was super sour), luckily this didn't come with a twist.

After all the Bitter, Spicy, Sour, we was given Honey drink.

Next was finding the house key to open the door from a bracket of ice water using only the legs. There was 3 keys inside, so had to get the right key.

After that was Groom and Bride meet *Yahoo mission accomplish*

 While playing the games, the bride was watching all this via Facetime on the Ipad (one outside to provide the live-telecast).

Traditional Chinese wedding would have 4 flavors:
Lemon (Sour)
Pure Honey (Sweet)
Blend bitter gourd juice (Bitter)
Wasabi on Cream crackers (Spicy)

After retrieving the bride, we headed to the back of the house to take some artistic shots, 'Thank You' photos and videos. One of it was a video of us (Bridesmaid and Groomsmen) chasing after the camera with out alphabets.

While they was having the tea ceremony, we had our brunch and started packing the stuff that is needed back in KL.

Fast forward to church decoration. The pews was decorated and there was 6 beautifully arranged flowers on the alter.

Bridal march was to the song of 'In dreams' from Lord of the Ring. The march in order: Flower girl -> Couple 1 -> Couple 2 -> Couple 3 -> Maid of Honor -> Bride and her Father.
I tell you, it can make people so nervous when u have so many pair of eyes on you while walking down the. The couple 1, 2, 3 above comprises of one Groomsmen and one Bridesmaid forming one pair each.

Fast forward to the the wedding dinner. It was set in a Garden wedding dinner setting. It was beautifully done and the weather was superb, It was not too hot nor raining.The usual things at wedding was done. One of the special game played was bursting the balloon and playing the dare inside it. Example of dare was pinching someone and telling them that they are cute; singing a love song to few ladies; Professing their love from one end to the other, "Chocolate is my favorite, but You are also my favorite"

The more fun part was what i call the 'after party' where the Bridesmaid, Groomsmen and several other closer friends gather in their suite and gave them a surprise. First was making them eat a red apple without using their hands, just using the pair of mouth and making a visible ring of eaten mark around the apple. Next was a green apple (which is rounder and smoother), which is more challenging. Both rounds they did very well by co-coordinating who eats and who bites to hold on to the apple and avoid it from falling. Those around was well impress with their skills and how they work together. The final fruit challenge was eating banana without hands (of course still with the skin on), which they had to bite/ eat from both ends of the banana. Well Done.

We also played the shoe & heels game. Each person had one heel and one shoe each. They would use either the heel or shoe to answer the question. Some was easy, while some was harder. Some of the question reveals that they thought their partner would do (but it was all for laughter).

The final surprise for the couple was we Filled the Whole bathroom with balloons (about 100 of them to be exact). The couple liked what we did to surprise them, it was a truly memorable for them.

Happy Wedding Henry & Jacqueline.

Wishing both of you a wonderful journey as you build your new life together.

"Do It Anyway" by Mother Teresa

1. People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.  Forgive them anyway.
2. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.  Be kind anyway.
3. If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies.  Succeed anyway.
4. If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you.  Be honest and sincere anyway.
5. What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.  Create anyway.
6. If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.  Be happy anyway.
7. The good you do today, will often be forgotten.  Do good anyway.
8. Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.  Give your best anyway.
9. In the final analysis, it is between you and God.  It was never between you and them anyway.

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The Paradoxical Commandments by Dr. Kent M. Keith

1. People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Love them anyway.
2. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway.
3. If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
4. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
5. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.
6. The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds. Think big anyway.
7. People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
8. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.
9. People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. Help people anyway.
10. Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway.

© 1968, 2001 Kent M. Keith

Unborn child

Unborn child are very sensitive, they can feel if you don't intend to have them born into this world.

Recently one of my friend shared with me that an ex friend of her had an miscarriage in the toilet.
When she first knew that she was pregnant, she had intended to use the child to force the guy to marry her (since he had promise that after he divorce the wife, he would marry her). As it started to show, and the guy isn't doing anything, she didn't want the family to know it, and so decided to have an abortion.
The first time she went to the clinic, she couldn't bare to let the unborn child go.
The second time she went, she was having minal flu and slight fever thus unsuitable to have an abortion.
After few weeks after that, while in the toilet, the miscarriage happened.

The unborn child can feel that they are unwanted, and they rather not come into this world, because you might not treat them to the best of ability.

感情专一

当男人全心爱过一个人之后,
该付出的付出了, 全心努力的去把握过,
曾试图给她想要的一切, 曾试图为她而死,
但回报却是无动于衷, 于是在一次次寂寞的等待中,
心血一点一滴的滴干了, 最后心血全无,心灰意冷,
当爱情失去信仰, 当感情离开忠一的港湾后,
对于男人来说, 爱情是什么这一切就都显的无所谓了!
男人的心冷了, 就再也难以热起来,
因为爱过一次之后已经让他失去了爱的能力。

【做人原则】

（1） 能不骂人，就不骂！一旦骂，就往死里骂；
（2） 骗我可以，但不要被我知道；
（3） 我可以容忍，但别超过我的底线；
（4） 我可以装傻，但别以为我真傻；
（5） 不做第三者，即使再喜欢；
（6） 任何的真话，我都能接受。

（转贴）由手機號碼尾數看出你的戀愛期限

平常對身邊使用的數字有沒有特別在意呢？
不論你對這些數字有沒有特別挑選過，但它們可有著有趣的代表意義喔！
讓我們以手機的尾數號碼來看看你的戀愛傾向吧！

A、尾數1
B、尾數2
C、尾數3
D、尾數4
E、尾數5
F、尾數6
G、尾數7
H、尾數8
I、尾數9
J、尾數0

A、尾數1 你的戀愛期限為"稍長"

「1」這個數字本身就是暗示「幸運」的數字喔。

　　手機號碼尾數為1的你，在戀愛上受到人際關系的影響頗大，你的戀情易受到家人、朋友認同，或是經由他人介紹認識異性的機會相對較多大致上戀情都能維持一段時期不會很快曇花一現。

　　通常你會以較長遠的眼光來選擇結婚對象，結婚的前提就是要經過一定時間的交往。因此在挑選對象上也會比較慎重，不過也有可能因過於慎重反而錯失良緣喲。而能夠為你帶來幸運、與你速配的尾數號碼為3、6、7.擁有此尾數號碼者的愛情幸運物：小型電視。正要開始新婚生活的人更是需要喔，有讓兩個人生活更親密的效果呢。不妨就在房間裡放一台吧，如果能有藍色的外殼那就更好了。或者是在電視上方擺設藍色調的裝飾品也可以。



B、尾數2 你的戀愛期限為"不確定"

「2」這個數字本身就是暗示「不安定」的數字。

　　手機號碼尾數為2的你，身邊的環境與人際關系也都較為不安定。因此，戀愛期限上同樣是不確定的氣息濃厚，就算什麼時候忽然一段戀情就展開了，或是莫名其妙突然戀情終結也不算什麼稀奇的事。不過也不是完全不好啦，如果你能充分享樂這種來得突然、去也突然的戀愛方式，那你就是個戀愛高手囉。而能夠為你帶來幸運、與你速配的尾數號碼為1、5、9.擁有此尾數號碼者的愛情幸運物：能夠反映自己影像的東西。例如像是照片、鏡子、或是肖畫像等。這些東西都有讓你不安定的運勢能夠鎮壓讓它安定的作用喔。即使你是個討厭照相的人，還是耐心多拍幾張帶著笑容的照片吧！



C、尾數3 你的戀愛期限為"稍長"

「3」這個數字本身就是暗示「成功」的數字。

　　手機號碼尾數為3的你，在戀愛上頗為圓滿順利的呢。因此，一段戀愛維持的期間也稍長，而且直接往結婚方向行進的機會也較多。不過這個"成功"也可能是發揮在工作、事業上，如果你在知性上是個較為重視事業的人，那麼可能會對戀愛造成妨礙。或許會因事業導致戀愛期間也拖長而有晚婚傾向，不過結婚後工作也大多能照常持續下去，不用太擔心兩者有抵觸。而能夠為你帶來幸運、與你速配的尾數號碼為0、6、7.擁有此尾數號碼者的愛情幸運物：與家庭生活相關的東西。例如家具、廚房用品、寢具等。能夠讓你有溫馨家庭感覺舒適的物品對你很重要喔。在家居擺飾上多花些金錢也值得啦。



D、尾數4 你的戀愛期限為"短暫"

「4」這個數字本身就是暗示「節制、適度」的數字。

　　手機號碼尾數為4的你，在戀愛上就算是再親密也會謹守禮儀分寸，這樣的你在戀情上較為短暫、保守的傾向。正在猶豫的當頭一下就被情敵先下手為強、捷足先登去了。如果有人對你提出愛的告白而你也能很快回答對方的話，那麼這個感情對你而言應該就是內心期待且真實的了。不用再考慮有的沒的，趕緊飛奔到對方懷抱裡去吧！而能夠為你帶來幸運、與你速配的尾數號碼為3、7、8.擁有此尾數號碼者的愛情幸運物：與頭相關的東西。像是帽子、髮飾、吹風機等，如果其中有一種是你喜歡且愛用的，那就決定好一項把它當作幸運物般常常使用吧。



E、尾數5 你的戀愛期限為"長長久久"

「5」這個數字本身就是暗示「圓滿」的數字。

　　手機號碼尾數為5的你，在戀愛上能有著圓滿結局。而金錢運也有受惠的跡象，可以說是金錢、愛情兩得意呢。戀愛路程走得平穩，很懂得珍惜自己的感情，步調雖然慢了點，但漸進式的愛情後很自然地走向結婚禮堂，雖沒有高潮起伏但安定就是最大的幸福了。但也因安定的關係，一旦出現外力誘惑很容易出現破綻、露出馬腳，所以啦，沒有偷腥的命啦！而能夠為你帶來幸運、與你速配的尾數號碼為2、5、9.擁有此尾數號碼者的愛情幸運物：會直接接觸身體或緊貼著身體的東西。像是手錶、皮帶、浴巾、披肩圍巾等。多將這些東西隨身佩帶有安定運勢與幸運的作用喔。



F、尾數6 你的戀愛期限為"普普通通"

「6」這個數字本身就是暗示「人品」的數字。

　　手機號碼尾數為6的你，在戀愛上的機會很可能是由你的人品所引發，因受到尊敬、敬愛而產生情愫。像是師生戀、主管與：部屬之戀、醫生與病人、學長與學妹等，女性受到年紀較你還小的男性告白的機會也較多。不過戀愛的期限因可能出現的阻礙、反對只能算是普普通通。還有一點頗為重要的是如果戀情遭受家人反對或是本來就與家人相處不睦的話，那麼這個數字的效果將大減，你的魅力也就散發不出來了，這點可要特別注意喔。而能夠為你帶來幸運、與你速配的尾數號碼為 0、4、5.擁有此尾數號碼者的愛情幸運物：與天候相關的物品。像是雨傘雨具、緊急備用食物、電池、外出攜帶用小型收音機等。在一朝緊急情況時能夠派上用場的話更是你發揮人品的重要工具，大家你的信賴更深一層。



G、尾數7 你的戀愛期限為"短暫"

「7」這個數字本身就是暗示「天賦才能」的數字。

　　手機號碼尾數為7的你，對戀愛的是以直覺、轟轟烈烈、乾柴烈火型較多。一旦談起戀愛就是美麗又燦爛，不過熱情過後也容易退燒，因此戀愛期限大多較為短暫。相遇、邂逅的機會多，但也較難判斷什麼樣的人才是真正適合你的。不妨被動一點等待對方的表態和多觀察人品之後再交往。而能夠為你帶來幸運、與你速配的尾數號碼為3、8、9.擁有此尾數號碼者的愛情幸運物：與時間、休閒相關的物品。像是時刻表、旅行箱、手錶等。另外還有能夠提醒你每天計劃行程的東西、能夠留住片刻回憶的東西也是與你幸運相關的物品喔！



H、尾數8 你的戀愛期限為"不是極短就是極長"

「8」這個數字本身就是暗示「強烈意識」的數字。

　　手機號碼尾數為8的你，在戀愛上帶有強迫性質、糾纏意味的傾向。一旦愛上一個人，不論對方感受如何或是單方面付出也在所不惜。因此你的戀愛期限多需視對方的忍耐力而定，失敗的話將是極為短暫，但如果纏得夠黏也是很有可能達到結婚目的的。不論如何一旦結婚後還是得多壓抑自我，多留些時間、空間給對方婚姻才能持久喔。而能夠為你帶來幸運、與你速配的尾數號碼為0、1、5.擁有此尾數號碼者的愛情幸運物：與健康或情境相關的禮物。像是鮮花、體重計、水果、皮膚保養品等。一旦健康狀況不佳，你的"強烈意識"恐怕會演變成"頑固"喲，維持健康身體是你最需重視的。



I、尾數9 你的戀愛期限為"短暫"

「9」這個數字本身就是暗示「逆境」的數字。

　　手機號碼尾數為9的你，在戀愛上有遭遇各式各樣阻礙的憂慮。因此戀愛期限大多短暫，不過因朋友運不錯，藉由朋友相助戀情可望排除阻礙獲得進展。而雖然在生活、戀愛上遭遇逆境，反而還有讓你越挫越勇的機會，讓你散發歷經歷練的獨特魅力呢。而能夠為你帶來幸運、與你速配的尾數號碼為3、6、8.擁有此尾數號碼者的愛情幸運物：在野外、戶外使用的物品。例如露營用具、釣具、汽車、自行車等。而戶外活動不僅帶給你幸運，也是心靈的安定劑，約會多以兜風、郊遊方式也不錯喔。



J、尾數0 你的戀愛期限為"稍短"

「0」這個數字本身就是暗示「煩惱」的數字。

　　手機號碼尾數為0的你，在戀愛上容易遭遇會錯意、表錯情等誤解上的煩惱。或是自己想得太多、考慮再三，有自尋煩惱的傾向。因此你的戀愛期限也稍短了些，還有在猶豫不決、煩惱間熱情逐漸消退的可能。而且時間拖得越久，不確定因素就越多。所以如果你有結婚的打算，那麼最好在交往半年內就決定好婚事。而能夠為你帶來幸運、與你速配的尾數號碼為1、4、5.擁有此尾數號碼者的愛情幸運物：運動鞋、休閒鞋。由腳部開始一點小變化會有影響到全身的奇妙感覺喔，只要是假日就多以輕便的鞋子取代笨重的皮鞋吧。顏色也可多注重些，較亮麗色彩、可愛圖樣的款式更佳

分手后

第一最好不相見，如此便可不相戀。
第二最好不相知，如此便可不相思。
第三最好不相伴，如此便可不相欠。
第四最好不相惜，如此便可不相憶。
第五最好不相愛，如此便可不相棄。
第六最好不相對，如此便可不相會。
第七最好不相誤，如此便可不相負。
第八最好不相許，如此便可不相續。
第九最好不相依，如此便可不相偎。
第十最好不相遇，如此便可不相聚。
但曾相見便相知，相見何如不見時。
安得與君相訣絕，免教生死作相思。

你可以让女人哭、可以让她受委屈
但不要让她沉默无言。
因为沉默是一种最深的伤痛、
无言是一个女人最悲的哭声。
你要知道、女人最爱倾诉
不管生活有多少苦难、无论她有没有心事
她都想和你讲述关于她的一切、
这是她爱你的最好方式。

如果有一天、她突然安静了
你便走到了后悔的边缘

Men are like Bluetooth, he is connected to you when you are nearby, but searches for other devices when you are away.
Woman are like Wifi, she wants to connect with all the devices, but the device connects to the Wifi that gives the strongest signal.

1.你是为了企业而存在，并非企业是为了你而存在
2.如果你不能为企业创造相应的价值，那么企业就算给你的薪水可观，最多也就是一个月；
3.公司交给你一件事，不单单是希望你能100%的完成，更希望你能够200%的完成，因为只有当你能完成200%的时候，公司才能够有成长。
4.做任何事，有热情，有理智，有创意。
5.首先管理好自己，其次才能管理好团队。律己不能，何能律他人？
6.与大家同成长，这个过程，有酸甜苦辣，无论我最后能否成功，将会是我的宝贵经验。

Brothel - Church

In a small town, a person decided to open up a brothel, which was right opposite to a church. The church and its congregation started a campaign to block the brothel from opening with petitions and prayed daily against his business.

Work progressed. However, when it was almost complete and was about to open a few days later, a strong lightning struck the brothel and it was burnt to the ground.

The church folks were rather smug in their outlook after that, till the brothel owner sued the church authorities on the grounds that the church through its congregation and prayers was ultimately responsible for the destruction of his brothel, either through direct or indirect actions or means.

In its reply to the court, the church vehemently denied all responsibility or any connection that their prayers were reasons for the act of God. As the case made it way into court, the judge looked over the paperwork at the hearing and commented:

"I don’t know how I’m going to decide this case, but it appears from the paperwork, we have a brothel owner who believes in the power of prayer and we have an entire church that doesn’t."

牽手

因為愛著你的愛　因為夢著你的夢
所以悲傷著你的悲傷　幸福著你的幸福
因為路過你的路　因為苦過你的苦
所以快樂著你的快樂　追逐著你的追逐

因為誓言不敢聽　因為承諾不敢信
所以放心著你的沈默　去說服明天的命運
沒有風雨躲得過　沒有坎坷不必走
所以安心地牽你的手　不去想該不該回頭

也許牽了手的手　前生不一定好走
也許有了伴的路　今生還要更忙碌
所以牽了手的手　來生還要一起走
所以有了伴的路　沒有歲月可回頭

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